Monday, November 30, 2009

Guest Blog: Rachel Sontag; House Rules


Author Rachel Sontag on her memoir, House Rules.




A compelling, at times horrifying work that is impossible to put down, House Rules cracks open the shell of a desperately dysfunctional family with impressive grace and humor and prose that is both precise and rich.
Rachel Sontag grew up the daughter of a well-liked doctor in an upper middle class suburb of Chicago. The view from outside couldn’t have been more perfect. Well educated, liberal and worldly, the Sontag’s went to synagogue every Friday night. But within the walls of the family home, Rachel’s life was controlled and terrorized by her father’s serious depression. Questioning his authority led to brutal fights; disobedience meant humiliating punishments. When Rachel was twelve, he duct-taped her stereo dial to National Public Radio, measured the length of her hair and fingernails with a ruler, and regulated when she could shower.

A visceral and wrenching exploration of the impact of a damaged psyche on those nearest to him, House Rules will keep you reading even when you wish you could look away.


Thank you, Rachel and please visit her website http://www.rachelsontag.com/.

Monday, November 16, 2009

Guest Blog: English Professor Jennifer Feller

Three Cups of Tea: one man's mission to fight terrorism and build nations-- one school at a time
by Greg Mortenson , David O. Relin

Compact discs / Read by Patrick Lawlor / 2006.


Recently, Greg Mortenson's story Three Cups of Tea made it into my pile at the public library. I'm a changed person for hearing this tale. While that might seem to be a wild claim, it's literally true. I believe everyone in America should read or listen to this book.

Mortenson is a unique soul, a large man, trained as a nurse, and a mountain climber by vocation. He had two passions for the first three decades of his life: climbing and a desire to cure his younger sister's physical challenges. As a result of his sister's untimely death, Greg became even more determined to explore and celebrate life, to honor hers. In 1993, he joined a group that planned to ascend K2, the highest peak in the world. Characteristically, his trip was cut short by a successful attempt to save a fellow climber. Through a series of chance encounters, Mortenson ended up recovering in small mountain village in Northern Pakistan, where he found his third passion in life.

While he was on the mend, impressed by the compassion, wisdom, and grit of these Himalayans (the Balti), Greg toured the village. When he asked to see their school, he was led to a clearing, where children were practicing their lessons in the dirt. The government allowed the village to share a teacher with a neighboring village, but this was a day the teacher worked in the other. The children studied in the open, as there was nothing to spare for a building or supplies. On the spot, Mortenson vowed to provide a school for these children.

With no training in education, no background in fundraising nor international relations, and no connections who could help him, Mortenson set himself to the task. In fact, Mortenson was computer illiterate and homeless, as he had spent his life studying medicine, stored his belongings in rented space, and travelled constantly to climb. On the other hand, this man is an inspirational archetype of an American: well-travelled, resourceful, strong, honest, tolerant, compassionate, and persistent.

Overcoming all odds and every obstacle, learning from every mistake and gathering friends and supporters along the way, Mortenson succeeded in building that first school. To date, dozens of schools have been built, hundreds of village women have been provided backing for economic development, and, perhaps most important, international and cross-cultural bonds of hope and education have been forged throughout Pakistan and Afghanistan.

Mortenson's journey, as perilous and winding as a mountain trek, inspires patience, hope, and diligence. He learned the language, raised money, and risked everything. When approached for background information for this book, he provided a list of his enemies, so that the story could be told honestly. He was kidnapped by insurgents, routinely travelled through war zones, and lived on pennies a day. In fact, he was in Pakistan when the Towers fell in NYC and refused to leave the country until he'd finished the construction he'd planned for that trip.

Mortenson is unique individual, self-taught and determined. To know him is to be involved with his cause. To love him is to be separated from him for months at a time, as he travels and works to build schools and forge peace in the most desolate parts of the Third World. To read this book is to learn, along with Mortenson, more about relationships and humanity that any other I've experienced (in my self-help-soaked life!). The title of the book comes from the first lesson he learned from his hosts, "The first time you share tea with a Balti, you are a stranger. The second time you take tea, you are an honored guest. The third time you share a cup of tea, you become family, and for our family, we are prepared to do anything, even die. Doctor Greg, you must make time to share three cups of tea."


Saturday, October 17, 2009

Quick Quote for the Day


"The world is but a canvas to our imaginations"
  Henry David Thoreau
  
 (Image: Wassily Kandinsky/The Swan)

Wednesday, October 7, 2009

Memory Keeper's Daughter (Fiction, 2005) Kim Edwards



This fictional novel begins on the night of an unusual Kentucky blizzard with Dr. David Henry delivering fraternal twins to his wife, Norah, assisted by his devoted nurse, Caroline Gill. David realizes that Paul, the boy baby, is healthy but that the other child, a girl, has Down’s syndrome. In order to spare Norah the heartache of this discovery, David orders Caroline to place the baby in an institution. Caroline, thirty-one and single, ignores David's request and flees with the baby, Phoebe, to a new life in Pittsburgh. The plot thickens and a dark shadow appears over the marriage of David and Norah. Paul, the male twin, is impacted by the problems of his parents. The new life of Caroline and Phoebe is also detailed. The novel chronicles the characters lives over three decades from 1964-1988. This is one of the best fiction books I have read in years. A page turner that I read over two nights. Every person I have recommended it to has the same reaction. Mesmerizing and excellent, the novel spent most of 2006 on the New York Times Best Seller List mostly through word of mouth. Deep themes of the treatment of the disabled and women are evident. In the end, life continues and we must live with the choices we make.

Friday, October 2, 2009

Black Wave: A Family's Adventure at Sea and the Disaster that Saved Them



This is the story of John and Jean Silverwood and their four children, Ben (16), Amelia (14), Jack (9), and Camille (5) and their adventure sailing around the world on their 50 ft catamaran, the Emerald Jane. In 2003, the family decides to leave their hectic life in surburban San Diego and embark on a life changing journey. Jean narrates the first part of the memoir and describes adapting to life on the high seas. I enjoyed her depictions of the family adjusting to the close quarters of a boat (especially the teens), passing through the Panama Canal, the enriching experiences of observing marine life and exploring other cultures. The children become adept at sailing and navigating. There is the threat of pirates in certain ports.
John is the voice of the second portion of the book and gives the reader his perspective of the trip along with historical information. The family confronts a dramatic collision with a coral reef 350 miles off the coast of Tahiti and the event has dire consequences for John. The strength of the family is tested and the the accident is life altering. In the vein of the Perfect Storm, this is a real life adventure tale that promises to be a memorable read. Hope you enjoy it!


Wednesday, September 30, 2009

Indentical Strangers: A Memoir of Twins Separated and Reunited









I read this book about a year ago but the story has remained with me. Elyse and Paula were identical twins born to a mentally incapable mother and separated as infants. Separation of identical twins is not a common occurrence. The sisters found eachother at age 35 and noticed amazing similarities in their lives. They both had explored artistic paths and had become interested in writing though they had very diverse upbringings.   The authors are thrilled to find eachother but experience difficulty with their new reality. My favorite parts of the book delved into the history and science of biological twins. The idea of nature versus nurture are explored in a unique way. Haven't we all wondered what it would be like to find an identical twin. I was truly sad to reach the last page of this amazing memoir.

Crashing Through: A True Story of Risk, Adventure, and the Man Who Dared to See



Robert Kurson writes the biographical story of William May, a man who was blinded at age three in a tragic chemical accident. He remained blind for forty-two years and created a successful, happy life which included a career and family. Kurson's book details May's stem cell surgery in 1999, when at the age of forty-five he regains the ability to see. He describes May's difficulties in learning to live with sight and seeing the faces of his wife and children for the first time. The story evolves in a mysterious way.

I read this book about a year ago and had forgotten about it until my son brought up Helen Keller at dinner one night. Our family became engaged in an interesting dialogue about sight and hearing. The book became a focal point in our conversation and created many thoughts for us to ponder. We must be grateful for our senses.

In closing, I will say that the book fascinated me on many levels : 1.) The absence of one sense and the way in which people overcome this loss to live full lives 2.) The intricate and minute aspects of our vision that evolve over a lifetime; optic magic that the correction of vision may not be able to overcome. The book has remained with me and I left the reading with the an incredulous sense of awe in the power of the human body; one which we take for granted on a daily basis. I hope you will read this book and share your thoughts on an amazing human experience. Bravo to Robert Kurson for his excellent book.